25 years ago tomorrow I married my best friend, and guess what, he is still my best friend today. My favourite view in the world is his face, and yes I know it sounds corny, but my heart still skips a beat when I see him for the first time each day.
Life in Stages
We did not meet until 4 days after my 31st birthday. It was a Halloween party that we had both been invited to by one the guys I worked with, he thought we would be perfect for each other. He was right. We both felt as if we had met our other half within an hour of spending time together, and you know it had to be, when you find out he was dressed as a genie (including those curly toed shoes that are always in the cartoons), and I was dressed as a demon witch with horns made out of my hair (it was very long back then).
Within 4 months, we were living together (and yes, I know that there are still people who object to that but it just seemed to be right for us) and before a year had past we were engaged to be married.
We had intended to get married in September of 1991, but on January 15th of that year, I discovered that I was pregnant and so we moved the wedding up because my due date was the date we had picked for our wedding. Three weeks before we were married, I miscarried and we lost the baby. We were both devastated but at least we had something else to focus on. We were married on April 20, 1991, with all of my family, all of his family, and all of our friends in attendance, and the gentleman who had introduced us was our best man.
That first year of married life set the tone for the rest of our years together, we were and still are each others best friend, we became a single unit in that year, standing together through whatever came up, and so it is to this day.
In May of 1992 we discovered that once again I was pregnant, and in February of 1993 our son was born. We were over the moon, and in October, we discovered I was pregnant again, and in July of 1994, our daughter was born. I know both of us felt complete, that we had exactly what we had both always wanted, unfortunately our joy was overshadowed by the fact that Hawkeye’s mother was terminally ill with Cancer, she lasted six weeks after our daughter was born. That was my saving grace, knowing that at least she had had a chance to meet the granddaughter that would carry her name.
The years following the birth of our kids are a blur of images, the kids growing and changing and then kindergarten, and then school. It seems to have gone by so fast, they grew and changed and became individuals that I am very proud of. They are kind-hearted and family means everything to them too.
Saturday night they threw us a surprise 25 th Anniversary party. Almost all of my family was there and most of Hawkeye’s family was there, we had a wonderful time, and yes the best man from our wedding was there too, with his wife. I stood looking at all of our family and I felt truly blessed, I love each and every one of those people, and I cannot imagine our lives without them in it. We have lost some along the way, Hawkeye’s Mum and Dad are gone, my Dad is gone, and my Stepfather is gone, but somehow I felt like all the family was there, all of the ones who are gone were still there in our hearts and minds and I know they would have had a great time too.
So, 25 years have past, since we said our I dos, and looking back I can honestly tell you that I would not change a thing. The love that we share is there for all to see, our children see it and know what love is supposed to be and strive for what we have. Now, please don’t misunderstand, it’s not like we don’t have our ups and downs, our disagreements, our moments of anger, but that’s all they are, they are moments, surrounded by the surety and knowledge that love is at the bottom of it all and always will be, so good moments or bad, they are all part of what makes us, US.
The recipe or today is:
Sausages & Pierogis
- 16 Pierogis
- 12 Sausages (Johnsonville Maple Flavoured is what I use)
- 1 Onion
- 1 Tbsp Butter
- 1 Tbsp Olive Oil
- 1 can Libby’s Deep Brown Beans (maple flavour is what I use with this)
- Fry off the sausages and set aside to cool
- In the same pan, add the onion chopped in half moons to cook slowly, stirring occasionally
- Put a large pot of hot water on to boil
- Open the can of beans and put in a small pot, turn heat to medium
- Chop sausages into bite size pieces
- When large pot boils, add the pierogis
- Add the sausages to the frying pan with the onion
- When the pierogis float to the top, lift them out with a slotted spoon and add to the frying pan
- Add more butter and oil to the pan if needed, and fry the whole works until the pierogis start to brown
- Serve the pierogis & sausages, with the beans on the side. And a dollop of sour cream for the pierogis if wanted.
Well, that’s it for today, I apologize for not having any pictures with the post today. I have misplaced my wedding album and could not find it in time for the post. I promise I will post them at another time.
Take care and I will talk to you on Thursday.